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Registered Member #19
Joined: Thu Feb 02 2006, 03:19PM
Location: Jacksonville, FL
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wrote ... Defending yourself in the face of an unavoidable threat is one thing. Jumping straight to violence is quite another
I am assuming they have already made the first move. If they block your path and become aggressive what are you going to do? I agree walking away is better but if it means losing your dignity/self respect? You can be as big or strong as you like but people can still attack you verbally and make you feel insecure for a while after the incident.
wrote ... I am training jujitsu
Good that is a soft style that does not aim to damage. I am not saying kill them. A wrist lock hurts and is embarrising and will not put them in the hospital unless they are crybabies.
wrote ... When knives and guns could be involved, all this talk of martial arts is just plain silly.
Sure from accross the road your best bet is to run or find cover but withing arms reach I beg to differ. We train with defense against weapons and it is not full proof but certainly not useless. I am not saying I am indestructable at all and remember I am young like you and also had my cars window broken recently and things stolen so I am probably a little to ready to strike back. Ask your local police about self defense. I did and they were very informative.
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Joined: Mon Mar 16 2009, 08:13PM
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Arcstarter wrote: I have always had the same problem. What i did (not purposely, but im glad it happened) was gain weight (6 or so feet tall, 180 pounds) and built some muscle. The guy that has pushed me around for so long won't even say anything bad about me.
Violence is indeed not the answer to all problems. If anyone has bad problems with this kind of stuff, get BIG. If you can get big enough to scare people that might be picking on you, you don't have to worry about violence!
I am just lucky i come from a big family (mainly obese, but also strong and tough). I am not strong, necessarily but i look big enough.
I have to agree with you, looking big can spare you from many fights. I am not a strong or well fit person, but i am tall and blessed with broad shoulders. That does certanly make thugs think twice, even though i might not be able to beat them in a physical fight. They are obviously aiming for the weaker individuals, like lions on the savanna i guess.
Coillah, even thogh you might have felt like an idiot or a coward, you did the right thing. You cannot talk to these people, and they are immature enough to seek revenge if you apply some whoop-ass. Like ruin your dear scooter or smashing a window while you sleep. And if they have a knife, as they often do, they are not afraid to use it. All those years you have invested at school improving yourself, and all your dreams for the future, washed away in an instant because you couldnt resist the temptation. Stabbed like a pig.
No, just avoid them. You are above beating thugs.
I strongly oppose violence. I have never punched anyone, and i'd like thinks to stay that way.
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Joined: Sat Jan 12 2008, 01:24AM
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It always takes more balls to walk away from a clash/fight/conflict then jump in there as just lowering your standards to their level.
It sure does, and it takes even more huevos to be big and not fight XD.
I am not the only person that i have heard doing the same thing. Also, stand up straight and look like nothing bothers you (don't look scared or worried). Thats what i do around people i don't trust.
I have never really thrown a punch neither. Sometimes my friend challenge me to see who is a wuss, and i win XD. Thats becasue i don't hang out with people i might feel threatened by that may some day get fed up with me.
It pays to be smart in a fighting situation. whether smart means running or having the common sense to defend yourself or others. That is a good reason to be big, my mother cannot defend herself and i am the only guy around other than my little brother. When my dad drinks and starts yelling, i just go sit around near him and my mom to make sure if something goes down, i can be there to make sure nothing happens. Luckily, my dad has never hit anyone ever before, except for occasionally getting madder than needed and punching my shoulder. Just the kind of thing that you ignore though.
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I am going to go out on a limb here and say I am probably one of the few individuals here that have trained with law enforcement and done combat and defensive pistol training, as well as fill my coffers with legal issues specifically pertaining to self-defense (not criminal defense, which is vastly different).
Unless your life is in immediate jeopardy with the ability and opportunity to carry out that jeopardy, you can't go around punching, stabbing, or shooting folks regardless of how much it might bruise your ego or self-respect if they call you names or make passive attempts to coerce you into striking first. Application of lethal force is your last resort and you better be able to justify it with legitimate legal reasons, very clearly, in a court of law or you're going to be spending some time in prison for manslaughter charges at the very least.
Keep in mind that your use of martial arts in a less-lethal manner can be viewed by the first responding officer as a failed application of lethal force. An officer will arrive to the scene and see an injured person(s) and you in perfect health. The injured person will say you tried "some kung-fu stuff" on them and make up a story. A career thug has probably run into the system multiple times in the past and they'll know what to say and how to navigate things that'll make your life more difficult. It's the officer's job to put together what happened but the first thing he will think based on initial impressions is that you're the suspect and your attacker is the victim. Just because you were in the right doesn't mean the officer will see it that way since he has no idea what went down and both parties have equal credibility until he establishes the truth. Self-defense is a very convoluted gray area thick in ambiguous legalese so if you can at all avoid it at all, I highly suggest it.
Also I would not put too much confidence in disarmament techniques taught in passing by martial arts practitioners unless it's something with extensive real-world testing like Krav Maga or if you're at a very elevated, real-world training level and train with actual practitioners of edged weapons and law enforcement for firearms to hone techniques which improvise and deviate from textbook moves. This is your life you're dealing with so honestly figure out how confident you are in your techniques, and do you know your limitations? While martial artists train against basic moves against an armed attacker, law enforcement teaches pistol retention techniques against fighting techniques.
Guess which instructor is going to have more practical real-world, battle-tested experience, or access to such data? The independent martial art instructor that teaches disarming techniques in passing that might get very little real world testing or updating, or law enforcement trainers that constantly incorporate techniques and teach pistol retention to officers and agents that use those survival skills daily?
It only takes one gunshot wound or one knife wound to put you out of the game, even if you do subdue your opponent. Someone versed with a gun or knife can inflict a dozen wounds in several seconds so you only need to make one mistake to end your own life, and Murphy loves a good chaotic battle so chances are it won't be some textbook fight where "move A is countered by move B, and victory!".
If you want to get around thugs, simply ooze confidence and that'll put you on top 9/10 times. Criminals look for the weak. You can be a small guy but if you're walking down the street, keeping your head up, no ipod or bluetooth jammed in your ear, walking with straight posture, and scanning about and making eye contact with all potential people crossing your path, you're going to come off as confident and aware of your environment. Making eye contact, even if it's fleeting, means you've already acknowledged a potential criminal's location and existence. I'm 5'7" and 175lbs, not large or tall by any stretch of the imagination. I've only once been caught surprised by a drifter at a gas station by letting my guard down. Otherwise, I've never been a successful target of a criminal or shady character or gotten picked on because I know how to act confident (even if I might not -feel- confident then). I've been approached once in a great while, but diffused the situation long before anything was to happen through being aware of my surroundings and select vocabulary and or body language. I've never so much as brandished a weapon or drawn from my holster, or even had my life threatened.
Yes, there are diehard scumbags out there that this won't work on, but if you can incorporate some behavior that will persuade 90% of them to leave you alone, why not?
Judgment and awareness are much more important tools than training your fist or firearms until it becomes life-or-death. If you're more aware of your surroundings and more cautious, you can usually spot trouble before it ambushes you, and avoid it before you come across it. Coillah saw the situation up ahead but decided to ignore his gut feeling and charged ahead anyhow hoping for the best. Gut feelings are remarkably accurate and operate on a subconscious level. It bypasses the long, convoluted path of higher brain function like logical processing and simply tells you, "warning!" in a primitive manner you can understand without words or scenario wargaming--uneasiness. Learn to trust it more often and take action.
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Joined: Thu Feb 09 2006, 06:10PM
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Cesiumsponge wrote ...
I am going to go out on a limb here and say I am probably one of the few individuals here that have trained with law enforcement and done combat and defensive pistol training, as well as fill my coffers with legal issues specifically pertaining to self-defense (not criminal defense, which is vastly different).
Unless your life is in immediate jeopardy with the ability and opportunity to carry out that jeopardy, you can't go around punching, stabbing, or shooting folks regardless of how much it might bruise your ego or self-respect if they call you names or make passive attempts to coerce you into striking first. Application of lethal force is your last resort and you better be able to justify it with legitimate legal reasons, very clearly, in a court of law or you're going to be spending some time in prison for manslaughter charges at the very least.
Keep in mind that your use of martial arts in a less-lethal manner can be viewed by the first responding officer as a failed application of lethal force. An officer will arrive to the scene and see an injured person(s) and you in perfect health. The injured person will say you tried "some kung-fu stuff" on them and make up a story. A career thug has probably run into the system multiple times in the past and they'll know what to say and how to navigate things that'll make your life more difficult. It's the officer's job to put together what happened but the first thing he will think based on initial impressions is that you're the suspect and your attacker is the victim. Just because you were in the right doesn't mean the officer will see it that way since he has no idea what went down and both parties have equal credibility until he establishes the truth. Self-defense is a very convoluted gray area thick in ambiguous legalese so if you can at all avoid it at all, I highly suggest it.
Also I would not put too much confidence in disarmament techniques taught in passing by martial arts practitioners unless it's something with extensive real-world testing like Krav Maga or if you're at a very elevated, real-world training level and train with actual practitioners of edged weapons and law enforcement for firearms to hone techniques which improvise and deviate from textbook moves. This is your life you're dealing with so honestly figure out how confident you are in your techniques, and do you know your limitations? While martial artists train against basic moves against an armed attacker, law enforcement teaches pistol retention techniques against fighting techniques.
Guess which instructor is going to have more practical real-world, battle-tested experience, or access to such data? The independent martial art instructor that teaches disarming techniques in passing that might get very little real world testing or updating, or law enforcement trainers that constantly incorporate techniques and teach pistol retention to officers and agents that use those survival skills daily?
It only takes one gunshot wound or one knife wound to put you out of the game, even if you do subdue your opponent. Someone versed with a gun or knife can inflict a dozen wounds in several seconds so you only need to make one mistake to end your own life, and Murphy loves a good chaotic battle so chances are it won't be some textbook fight where "move A is countered by move B, and victory!".
If you want to get around thugs, simply ooze confidence and that'll put you on top 9/10 times. Criminals look for the weak. You can be a small guy but if you're walking down the street, keeping your head up, no ipod or bluetooth jammed in your ear, walking with straight posture, and scanning about and making eye contact with all potential people crossing your path, you're going to come off as confident and aware of your environment. Making eye contact, even if it's fleeting, means you've already acknowledged a potential criminal's location and existence. I'm 5'7" and 175lbs, not large or tall by any stretch of the imagination. I've only once been caught surprised by a drifter at a gas station by letting my guard down. Otherwise, I've never been a successful target of a criminal or shady character or gotten picked on because I know how to act confident (even if I might not -feel- confident then). I've been approached once in a great while, but diffused the situation long before anything was to happen through being aware of my surroundings and select vocabulary and or body language. I've never so much as brandished a weapon or drawn from my holster, or even had my life threatened.
Yes, there are diehard scumbags out there that this won't work on, but if you can incorporate some behavior that will persuade 90% of them to leave you alone, why not?
Judgment and awareness are much more important tools than training your fist or firearms until it becomes life-or-death. If you're more aware of your surroundings and more cautious, you can usually spot trouble before it ambushes you, and avoid it before you come across it. Coillah saw the situation up ahead but decided to ignore his gut feeling and charged ahead anyhow hoping for the best. Gut feelings are remarkably accurate and operate on a subconscious level. It bypasses the long, convoluted path of higher brain function like logical processing and simply tells you, "warning!" in a primitive manner you can understand without words or scenario wargaming--uneasiness. Learn to trust it more often and take action.
This is by far the BEST advice said so far! I also know a bit about fighting, and I can assure you that ALL martial arts teachers will tell you to RUN first. I took karate with an army instructor, and my dad was a Juijitsu instructor in the Air Force. Both will tell you that you RUN first! Theres nothing wrong with running away as fast as you can.
If they catch you, you strike for the groin and then try to run again. If all else fails, you give it all you got to disable them. That is what REAL martial arts defense is all about, and it is why its your LAST option! These attacks are designed to inflict injury on someone. If you do that your going to court one way or another and your going to be in alot of trouble. My instrucots always taught that the first person to become angry is the first to lose. Theres no such thing as fighting for your honor. You fight to preseve life.
Your best defense is to keep your wits about you. Think about where your going and what time it is. Plan ahead! Im 6'1" 220lbs and pretty strong (athletic), can fight well, yet always plan my route first. My campus is very dangerous. I do see potential threats around in dark places. And so see idiots going down those paths.
Face it, its 2009. They have more to use against you than you do. They have EVIL minds and hearts as well as weapons and legal loopholes to use. You dont have anything but your superior brain. Caveman fights died out long ago.
Registered Member #30
Joined: Fri Feb 03 2006, 10:52AM
Location: Glasgow, Scotland
Posts: 6706
I lol'd at the "Spinning tailwhip scooter attack". If you're serious about self-defense, get a BMX, they go faster than a scooter
Seriously, there's been a lot of good advice given here. Fighting is always an unpleasant absolute last resort, and the fancy Chuck Norris moves that martial arts instructors teach probably won't work (all you need to remember is Eeyore's Run like f**k, Kick balls if caught, Repeat from step 1) and even if they do, as Cesiumsponge points out, you might well just end up in court yourself. And arguably that's where you belong if it was you who started the fight.
If Sun Tzu were alive today, he might have said, "It is better to walk the streets without one's iPod on, than to get conked on the head and robbed 100 times"
Registered Member #639
Joined: Wed Apr 11 2007, 09:09PM
Location: The Netherlands, Herkenbosch
Posts: 512
Indeed just walk away, that's the best thing to do. Only fight when they get a hold of you, free yourself and run away then. If you know some martial art don't go for hard moves just keep it simple. People struggling is a whole different thing then people helping you to do just that move you where practicing.
I'm curious to know what you would do when you see a small group of people fighting one person, would you guys jump in and help or just walk away?
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